If you are going through a divorce, it is crucial that you be able to express your wants and needs for yourself and for your children without getting overwhelmed by the legal process or your spouse's emotions and behaviors. A Divorce Coach is a professional who is trained to help you manage, cope with, diffuse or redirect the stress, anger, frustration, pain, sadness, and exhaustion that often pervades the divorce process and sometimes interferes with positive outcomes. Having someone at your side can help you to make effective decisions and manage the parts of the divorce process that are not typically part of the attorney's role.
Is it possible to have a good divorce?
We are not attorneys and do not practice law. However, we recognize that divorce is more than a legal division of assets and that some people need assistance with the changes in the emotional and co-parenting aspects in addition to knowing their legal rights. We do work with attorneys to provide you with a cost-effective, comprehensive approach to settling your differences by paying special attention to the emotional and communication struggles that sometimes complicate an already challenging process.
In addition, while coaching is not therapy, a Divorce Coach also can work with couples together to help you both to communicate more effectively through the divorce and beyond, which promotes better relationships and healthier adjustments for you and your children. Sessions can be individual or joint, and the Divorce Coach can be a part of the four-way meetings with collaborative attorneys to help coach you through the management of emotions, behaviors and communication patterns while you actively negotiate your marital settlement agreement with the attorneys.
Divorce Coaches are part of the Collaborative Divorce team, which offers an alternative to the traditional litigation approach to divorce, though you can benefit from the services of a Divorce Coach even if you choose to litigate your divorce. When you have a team that is working for you, it is possible to minimize the losses and actually have a good divorce.
For more information on the collaborative divorce process: www.collablawil.org or call Michelle Green, LCSW, (815) 201-5545 or email [email protected].